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Greetings, friends. There’s a lot going on in our world, isn’t there? If you’re reading this, I’m glad you’re here and I hope something in this post will serve you.

By now, I hope you’ve accessed the latest science-based recommendations about how to minimize the transmission of the new coronavirus, COVID-19. I highly recommend you check out this article from the American Psychological Association, which includes coping tips as well as links to the Centers for Disease Control and the World Health Organization. (more…)

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shutterstock_1598655364Monday afternoon, we said goodbye to one of our beloved pets, a long-haired feline named Turtle. Turtle loved her dogs, my husband, water play, movietime, and Friday night’s roast chicken. She joined our family fourteen years ago, her arrival wedged in between the last few days before my grandfather’s death, and the weekend I walked to receive my doctoral degree.

We’ve lived a great deal, since then. Our daughter has known Turtle her whole life.

The vulnerability researcher Brene Brown once said something to the effect of, our ability to experience joy is directly proportional to our willingness to be broken-hearted.

Oh my goodness, it hurts to say goodbye.  (more…)

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IMG_20191219_115324_031It’s that time again. I’m clearing out the vegetable beds closest to our house. I’m rinsing out my  germination flats with bleach, and filling them with seedling mix. I’m fondling seed packets, and paging through piles of seed catalogs.

What will I grow? How will it go? How can I work with nature, and what is beyond my control?

So much. So much is beyond my control. It’s dizzying, it’s terrifying, what’s beyond my control.

And on some levels, it’s simplifying. (more…)

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From Embracing the Good, a chapter in the Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook (Neff & Germer, 2018):

“Savoring involves noticing and appreciating the positive aspects of life – taking them in, letting them linger, and then letting them go. It is more than pleasure – savoring involves mindful awareness of the experience of pleasure…” (p.161)

Let’s be honest. How often do we miss opportunities to savor because our minds are nowhere to be found? To be distracted, to wake up breathing this morning (hooray!) and yet to find ourselves pulled in a hundred directions before our feet hit the floor – welcome to the experience of being human. So it’s for good reason that we call this the practice of mindfulness, the practice of mindful eating, the practice of savoring. Guess what? We get our whole lives to strengthen these skills.  (more…)

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It’s been a week, hasn’t it? Sometime last night in the midst of intense neck pain and overall muscle tension, as I was throwing back chocolate and contemplating getting another glass of wine, I woke up.

I wasn’t happy to return, honestly. My body hurt and I felt about a hundred things at once, as the fictional boy hero Ron Weasley expressed incredulity about (although you don’t need to be a Hermione to know that yes, humans are complex and capable of feeling conflicting emotions). I’ve been bouncing around for a few days now, kind of like a ping pong ball (or really, a bowling ball), crashing into anything and everything in its wake. A recipe for shame, of course, because then I must be a bad fill-in-the-blank. Round and round we go.  More chocolate, please. (more…)

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